Why Women Should Never Lower Their Standards

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In a society where individuals often encourage women to lower their standards or abandon them altogether in the pursuit of a partner, I am here to emphasize the importance of maintaining high standards. Here’s why having those standards is crucial for attracting the right person for you.

So Why Have Standards?

Many women believe that by lowering their standards, they will attract a great partner. However, this assumption is not always accurate. In contrast to women, men often take on the role of hunters in relationships. They thrive on the thrill of the chase, and when standards are lowered, it can make it easier for them to pursue without the challenge they desire.

Ultimately, lowering your standards does not serve your best interests. It’s important to maintain your expectations to attract the right partner who values you for who you are.

Standards protect you and are crucial to you being your best and having the best.

You Are More Powerful In This Life Than You Think

The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22)

You are a treasure. You Are The Prize. This may sound biased, but it is true. You will add to a man's life more than he will add to yours. Take a moment to examine every relationship you've been in, especially those where you lived together, and notice how dependent that man was or is on you. They often resemble children in need of care and support. A man needs YOU in his life. While you may need him too, it is evident that he relies on you more, and that is a fact.

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him a suitable companion. (Genesis 2:18)

Also, you cheat yourself at the type of man you'll get when you lower your standards. Have standards. You'll be amazed at the things a man will do just to get your attention or simply to impress you. Believe it or not, the average man really wants to please you. Ever notice some of the "dumb" or crazy things guys do just to get your attention? Just for you to notice them? Standards doesn't drive the right men away, it brings the right man into your life. Standards is the best way to screen the guys that aren't serious. It helps you to differentiate who's for real and who isn't. Put value on yourself.

Have Standards On Your Sex Life

Don't give it up easily. My best advice, and i'll say this to anyone that asks; Practice Celibacy. Be celibate and let your celibacy journey end with marriage. Its hard, believe me, i know. But it is one of the best and one of the most effective screening methods to land a great man. No man will stick around without sex if they aren't the right guy. Their mentality is that they can find another woman who can give them what they want. For a man to still be with you even though sex is not on the table shows he truly loves you for you. He loves your heart, your character, your values, everything you embody.

There will never be any doubts or question about whether he loves you for you or just wants to sleep with you, since sex is not even on the table.

Also, the reason why a lot of relationships break in the long run is because that relationship was built on a foundation of sex. Sex was used to compensate for a lot of things. You had sex in the good times and bad times. You had sex every chance you got. Many times, because you're too busy doing it, you don't get the chance to properly get to know each other. You don't know how to communicate properly, resolve conflict properly, etc. You don't face a lot of your issues. You put it under the rug and have sex instead. But when sex is not an option, you have to face each other and the reality of who that person truly is.

When you are not blinded by "sex goggles", you are able to truly evaluate this person and see if they are a good fit for your life and if they are, you'll learn how to understand them properly.

When conflict arises, you won't try to cover it with sex, you'll have no choice but to face it and handle it accordingly. That's why celibacy is greatly encouraged. Sex clouds your judgment about that person. Celibacy gives you clarity.

Debunking the Sex Argument About "Test Driving" a Car Before Buying It.

During your celibacy journey, you will encounter people who attempt to discourage you. You may also meet individuals, particularly men, who will use the phrase, "you can't buy a car without test driving it," as an excuse to persuade you to sleep with them. However, this argument is fundamentally flawed. You cannot test drive every car. While it is possible to test drive many common vehicles, such as Toyotas and Hondas, you absolutely cannot test drive a Ferrari, Lamborghini, or Porsche. In fact, many luxury car dealerships won't even allow you to purchase one unless you have previously owned a similar model. Certain luxury car shows may not permit you to view specific cars without some form of VIP status, let alone buy them.

These dealerships understand the value of their cars. The demand for these luxury vehicles often exceeds supply, leading to consistent sellouts. The sales agents at these dealerships typically do not make an effort to be friendly or to persuade you to buy a car; they are aware of its worth and understand that, due to its high value, it will sell regardless. If you do not present yourself in a certain way, they may not even pay you any attention. Often, you need to convince them that you can afford the car.

These high-end vehicles have been tested, tried, and proven, so manufacturers are well aware of their worth. They know the quality of their product and do not require your validation. The extensive time, effort, and resources invested in manufacturing these cars assure their excellence. Therefore, there is no question of needing to test drive them; you either accept them as they are or walk away.

They won't risk you test driving and damaging a 500k car. It is worth too much and its too valued to be risked like that. The cars that have value are not available for test driving. That's how a woman should be. You are Valuable.

You are not a cheap car that needs to be test-driven here and there before he decides if he likes it and will put a ring on it. You are like a luxury car. Worth a lot, and only a select type and caliber of a man can afford you.

Also remember that, when people drive these luxury cars, the person doesn't make the car look good, the car makes the person look good. People that drive these luxury cars are regarded with high value because of how valuable the car is. In Short, that car adds value to the buyers life. As a woman, you are so valuable. Stop selling yourself short and start seeing yourself as the precious Gem that you are. Another thing i'll like to point out with test driving is that, the test driver is not guaranteed to buy the car but after the car has been test driven for years , it ends up being sold for a lower price because its been overused and the value has gone down.

You are worth so much more. Stop letting these useless men put mileage on your body, and save it for one that deserves you.

Voice What You Want

Standards are good. Use them to measure value in a man and how you'll like to be treated in that relationship. A lot of women are being treated like slaves or trash in their relationships because they lowered their standards.

State what you want and don't compromise.

Men are transactional. They tell you what they want or need in the relationship. There must be something in it for them. A lot of times, when what a man wants in a relationship doesn't align with what the woman wants, she pretends in her heart that she's on board with it but secretly hopes she'll change him in the long run. But when that doesn't happen and her needs aren't fulfilled because the man never knew about them to begin with, resentment and bitterness starts to build up in the woman. That's why it is important to state what you need and what you expect to get out of the relationship. If they align, good, if they don't then move on.

Standards Should Be Based on Value Only

Your standards should not be based on materialistic or shallow things. They should be based on values. Examples of standards that are based on value are: You refuse to be with someone who treats you a certain way. e.g they don't respect you, are impatient with you, abuses you emotionally or physically, doesn't listen to you, want to change you, dumb you down, etc. These are valuable things that make or break you and you need a man that makes you better, not worse. Also, don't fix your worth on money either. The Bible says;

"Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies." Prov 31:10

You are priceless. Any time you stick a price tag on yourself, there's someone out there with enough money to pay for it, and it may not be who you want or need. Don't be bought by money or flashy things. Someone may lure you with those things and end up making your life even worse. Don't be materialistic. You're worth a lot. Even when you are married, have standards. There are things you absolutely won't tolerate that he needs to know about. It'll make make your life better and your marriage stronger.

People won't know what your value is unless you tell them. So set a tone for your life. Place value on yourself, and don't lower your standards for anyone.