Updated: Jul 11
Before we get into the post, I want to say this; We have flaws we can fix and flaws we can't fix, and sometimes, that can really affect the way we see ourselves, and our self esteem. So, If you would like to build up your self esteem, here is a simple exercise you can try that will boost up your confidence over time.
Now back to the post
When you see a person with dimples smile, the first reaction is, "Awwww so cute. So pretty. So adorable." Am i right?
Let's first define what dimples are; Dimples are visible indentations of the skin, caused by underlying flesh, which form on some people's cheeks, – especially when they smile. Some also have it on their chin, thighs, and back.
Dimples are one of the cutest, most beautiful features a person can have, especially on the face. The people who have them are constantly complimented on them and many who don't have them desire to have them. There are even surgeries and other ways that people use to try to get dimples. It is a very desirable feature to have.
But what a lot of people actually don't know is this: Dimples are actually a deformity, an abnormality, or birth defect.
Dimples are caused by the facial muscle called Zygomaticus Major. When this facial muscle is shorter than usual, when you smile, it pulls the inside of your skin (cheeks) and forms the indentation on your facial skin to give the appearance of Dimples. Normally, when the average person smiles, they stretch their facial muscles to form that smile. However, a person with dimples has shorter facial muscles, so when they smile, the short muscle pulls or tugs on the inside of their cheek and forms that cute dent we all like.
But if the devil had his way, something as simple and natural as smiling would have been one of the most annoying and painful experience for people whose facial muscles were short. Imagine if that pull was painful? Imagine smiling and feeling a sharp painful tug inside your cheeks? And the more you smile, the harder the pull, the more painful it is. It would have been a complete nightmare for people with dimples. I mean we all know that pulling a muscle (anywhere) is never painless. It is very painful. BUT GOD, being so gracious and kind, made it a painless experience, and turned that indentation into a beauty mark.
"You meant evil against me, but God turned it into good, in order to preserve the lives of many people who are alive today." (Genesis 50:20)
I don't know what your defect or deformity is? It may be a physical one on your body or it could be mental or spiritual, but i want to let you know that God can turn that supposed "bad thing" into a beautiful thing. Your situation is not hopeless, your story is not over. That disability, illness, speech problem, permanent limp, body type/distortion, mental prison, catastrophic relationship status, shameful social status, etc, whatever it is, God CAN turn it around for your good. He can use it to weave a beautiful story for the whole world to see.
NOTHING about you is a mistake.
You are exactly where you are and how He made you to be. This is a silly example but i used to think that God made a mistake by giving me only one dimple because i had never seen anyone with only one. Everyone i met had two and so i thought He forgot to add the other one. How silly. Of course, now i know it wasn't by mistake.
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." (Psalm 139:13-16)
Don't despair. There's a beautiful story in that difficult thing. God knew it would be a struggle for you before He created you, but He already knew that a beautiful story will spring out of that place as well. Let Him shape your life, your path, and your journey, and watch Him turn that deformity into a Beauty Mark (for all to see and marvel). Beauty from Ashes.
And if you will like to build up your self-esteem, here is a quick exercise you can try.